We all know one (or at least one), there is one in every social circle, the person (whether they are aware of it or not) who drains your energy. Maybe you’re that person, watch the body language of others, does it appear they can’t be bothered listening to you? Or perhaps they appear somewhat distressed?
Sometimes energy vampires (and perhaps more often than not) are not consciously aware of what they are doing. Sometimes the “victims” are even sympathetic toward the “vampire”, saying things like “they mean well” or “but they have gone through so much.” But the poor “victim” is still left with the life sucked out of them and emotionally exhausted.
So, how to recognise an energy vampire? I bet some names have already started popping into your head as you read the first paragraph. You may have called them by other names or used other ways to describe them. The following are some words or phrases you may have heard to describe an energy vampire:
- Always plays the victim
- Wet blanket
- Always blames everyone else for their problems
- The Fun Police
- Drama Queens
- Passive aggressive
And many more, but I’m going to assume you get the picture now, and if you couldn’t name anyone before, I bet you can now.
These people seem to have a need to feed off of others, and spending time with them can seriously drain your energy and leave you feeling low. It would be easy for me to just say “stay away from them!” but they may actually be people you love and care about, such as a family member, even your beloved mother or granny, they could even be your boss! So you can’t just ditch and move on, but there are things you can do to protect yourself.
Firstly, identify all the energy vampires in your life and then decide who has to stay and who needs to go. If you have family, employers, or co-workers that are energy vampires, then you need to consider if you need to keep around certain friends that you have identified as energy vampires. You can’t necessarily rid yourself of family or work colleagues but you can choose to not spend time sipping tea with the lady next door who has a new life drama every week that she feels the need to share with you (yet said neighbour can never remember your children’s names).
Once you have liberated yourself from the energy vampires and other potentially toxic people in your life, then it’s time to learn how to protect yourself from the negative energies of the ones that you cannot avoid.
Firstly a good thing to learn is how to protect your aura. This can be done any number of ways, I’ve been taught quite a few from different spiritual healers and teachers over the years and eventually adapted a technique of my own from what I have learned. The easiest way is to visualise yourself surrounded in protective white light. It doesn’t matter if you have trouble with visualisation, just intending it to be there and to protect you is enough… intention is everything. When we intend for something to be done we direct energy toward it which allows it to happen (this is the best way I can describe it). This is why we must always do our best to intend good things. You just need to intend that this white light, or protective bubble, is keeping out negative and/or harmful energy and only letting the good stuff through, kind of like a sieve that traps the sludgy unwanted stuff but lets the good stuff you want come through.
Keep your aura cleansed and balanced. Some crystals that are good for this are Citrine– as it will cleanse and align your aura, Smokey Quartz– for cleansing and protecting against negative energy, Labradorite– will assist in stopping your energy being zapped as it prevents energy leakage, and can also deflect negative energy from the aura. Rose Quartz will also assist in healing any ill feelings between you and your vampire.